Are you one of the minority of parents who feel that they know what goes on during their child’s day at school?


In a recent survey, 19% of you feel that you do, however that leaves a staggering 81% of parents completely clueless. As a teacher I hear parents ask their children ‘how was your day?’ Normally followed by ‘fine’ or maybe ‘okay’. Yet listening to and answering questions is a vital part of life and an important part of developing healthy relationships. Therefore, we should encourage and teach this skill to our children.


To help all parents develop a better understanding of their child’s school life we have suggested the top 10 questions to ask instead of ‘how was your day?’

The Questions:

  1. What was the best lesson today? Why?
  2. What was the best part of your day? What made it so good?
  3. Tell me three times you used your pencil/pen today?
  4. Who did you help/who helped you today?
  5. Tell me something that made you laugh?
  6. Who would you most like to be friends with? Why?
  7. Did anything surprise you today?
  8. Who did you play with at lunchtime? What was the game?
  9. Tell me a fact or skill that you learnt or improved on while at school?
  10. What challenged you today?

These suggestions are a great starting point to asking your children about their day. It is important to ask different questions over the week but remember to ask these more than once, everyday may bring a different and surprisingly interesting answer. Also remember, no child is suddenly able to develop a new skill or be able to answer or ask questions of others. It is something we learn and develop as time goes on; this vital skill, if learnt well, can help us for the rest of our lives.


Feel free to add you own questions for others to use.